Category Archives: LGBT

Becoming Me: Beardy beards and the Trans Folk Who Notice Them

Before we start here let me be very, very clear – I have MANY thoughts on gender coding and stereotyping and similar such nonsense. That’s a much more intense post for another day, and I’ll happily talk about it elsewhere.

This post is my experience, so directed towards those who grew beards as a result of second puberty thanks to T hormones. But if you’re bearded and ftm, mtf, masc, femme, enby, agender, or anything else, please know that you are fantastic and valid.

This is a light-hearted post, one of the million or so things that have happened to and around this transmasc person that never seem to crop up elsewhere.

So let’s talk about beards. Specifically, let’s talk about obsessively noticing, examining, and comparing beards.

Before I even started on T hormones I wondered, well, a lot of things, but one of them was whether I’d be able to grow a beard. My Dad has had one as long as I remember. Older photos show it came in stages – from clean-shaven through sideburns through muttonchops, to finally meet in the middle, but to me, he’s always had a short, neat, trimmed, full beard. He’s the only male in the immediate family, who I regularly saw, on either side who, to me, has always had a beard, nobody else comes to mind. Continue reading

Becoming Me: Trans Visibility day again

It’s that time again. That time where people announce trans visibility day and hope to raise enough awareness of themselves, that the people who can’t stand up and shout are still given a voice. 

Trans people are still dying. Still being killed for being trans – and its still trans women of colour taking the lead. 

Trans people are still committing suicide – and it’s still trans teens that are the most vulnerable. 

Trans people are still being beaten, abused, fired, evicted, disowned, rejected, and told they can’t even go tk the bathroom.

Trans people are still being told that they are monsters, freaks, predators, deluded, suffering from mental illness.

Trans people are still being erased by governments who pass bills to allow discrimination, by companies and healthcare providers who forget that not only cis women menstruate, and who refuse to listen when we speak. 

Trans people are still cast out of what should be safe places, by non-intersectional feminism. 

Trans people are still fielding questions about the legitimacy of their private parts and hormone levels and whether they’re trans enough or passing enough. 

Trans people are still being kicked down, by cis people who think being asked to use correct pronouns and not deadname them is somehow about taking away the freedom of those cis people and, not about giving freedom to the trans person. 

Trans people deserve better. 

Please help me to make the blog I write next year reflect that.