Category Archives: LGBT

Becoming Me: Trans Visibility day again

It’s that time again. That time where people announce trans visibility day and hope to raise enough awareness of themselves, that the people who can’t stand up and shout are still given a voice. 

Trans people are still dying. Still being killed for being trans – and its still trans women of colour taking the lead. 

Trans people are still committing suicide – and it’s still trans teens that are the most vulnerable. 

Trans people are still being beaten, abused, fired, evicted, disowned, rejected, and told they can’t even go tk the bathroom.

Trans people are still being told that they are monsters, freaks, predators, deluded, suffering from mental illness.

Trans people are still being erased by governments who pass bills to allow discrimination, by companies and healthcare providers who forget that not only cis women menstruate, and who refuse to listen when we speak. 

Trans people are still cast out of what should be safe places, by non-intersectional feminism. 

Trans people are still fielding questions about the legitimacy of their private parts and hormone levels and whether they’re trans enough or passing enough. 

Trans people are still being kicked down, by cis people who think being asked to use correct pronouns and not deadname them is somehow about taking away the freedom of those cis people and, not about giving freedom to the trans person. 

Trans people deserve better. 

Please help me to make the blog I write next year reflect that. 

Becoming Me: Top surgery recovery pt2!

Content Warning – FTM top surgery described

So hey, I’m now abut 9 weeks past my surgery, and after the last post where I went into the details, I thought now would be a good time to talk about the less technical stuff.

As I write, the incisions are closed up nicely. The two sections where I had problems are a bit thicker than the rest, but they’re mostly out of sight and the rest looks pretty good. Needs a bit of time to flatten out and get less red but I’m confident it’ll do that.

I saw the surgeon again a couple of weeks ago, and she’s happy too.The left is a little bigger than the right,but that may sort itself out, and if not they can suck out the excess fat. I’m back next September to take another look, at which time she’s said we can discuss anything else I want doing.

Meantime, I’m back to the gender clinic in January to followup with them. Continue reading

Becoming Me: Post-surgery

Content Warning: surgery, top surgery, dysphoria, post-surgery photos

So here we are, now 21 days post surgery. There aren’t that many easy-to-find accounts of exactly what this bit is like, so I thought I’d add my experience to the mix. So expect a long post, and feel free to skip the boring bits :)

As ever, this is me only, everyone experiences it differently and will have their own challenges, but if it helps someone understand,or someone going through or about to go through it feel a little easier, then I figure I did my job.

Last note before I start, there are some post-surgery pictures in this post, and they’re not pictures everyone will want to see. Anything like that I’ve hidden behind a clickable show/hide link, so you won’t see anything you don’t want to. Continue reading